How to Manage Your Time when Meeting Women - Part 1

Dating can be your best pal.

...OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave

to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote, "He thinks

with his... You know."

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are

physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and

affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I've personally

faced is balancing the two - my urges and

achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of

time. If you don't know what you're doing,

women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in

the park, feeding the birds and cuddling...

there's nothing wrong with spending a quality

time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU

DON'T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, and so do women.

In fact, it's their NATURE to take up a man's

time - it's her way of getting you to invest

in her. That way there's less chance of you

leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from

our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with

women. You see, giving their time to women is

what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are

"givers." They like to please women, protect

them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take

over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get of you making the

most of your life, your time.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this,

"WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I know it wasn't about "money," or

"control over my life," or "lots of my free

time."

It was probably something like "feeling of

safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,

excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel

good about herself, etc."

There are two ways that I think why men have

problems with how they use their time with

women.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff -

like spending too much time or money on a

woman because they think that the gifts they

REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.

Second, men think that they are "getting"

something valuable when a woman spends her

time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe

that women are a prize to attain, and that

there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's a LIE!

The best thing is to see women for what they

are, nothing more, nothing less. They are

cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that

important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it can be really hard to break out of this

mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to

notice because you've been doing them for

years.

Young men are taught that their urges is

crude and silly, and that it is just a favor

that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's a syndrome that I call a "doofus dad"

syndromeThere's another societal factor going

on, . In almost every TV commercial and

sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband"

is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the

mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her

superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of

the women is more valuable than men because of

the perception that women are "better."

You will feel obligated to give a woman a LOT

OF TIME if your time is not so valuable.

But here's the thing - if you are giving a

woman too much time, you won't be present for

most of that time. You will be distracted,

resentful, you will give her your "half-assed"

attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of

dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION

to women even though I'm only giving a smaller

amounts of my time.

Not only did this make our time better, it

created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left

women craving more.

Now my women can't get enough of me - in fact,

I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

You see, "enough" would mean, "overexposure"

to me, and women can't be pulled to what they

already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being

HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play

games with women and pretend to be busy or

whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl -

and don't spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women

but still with focus on your personal goals.

Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that

you are able to meet a lot of women, which

I'll have to cover in another newsletter.

It makes me sad to see men waste their lives

chasing and "putting up with" women, and then

they are buried in their coffin ALONE.

Women aren't property that you can keep or

somehow take with you when you die. Think

about that.

You can't "keep" a woman by investing all your

time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being

honest with the amount of time you are willing

give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you

will feel it on your own. That's ok, it just

means that you have a weak focus.

If you are following your true ways, it will

usually from the social norm.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the

values others try to impose onto you, you will

most likely experience some discomfort,

tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction

Code. It's all about self-control, finding

true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge

from within.

And no, we don't try to impose our values or

goals onto you. We think you'll be able to do

that for yourself, given the proper guidance.


Vin