Thursday, January 24, 2008

The Paramount of Sensual Tension

In any interaction with a girl, sensual tension is very important

Sensual Tension brings energy, or charge to an interaction. Its application is subtle, but powerful.

There are many different concepts of sensual tension floating around in the seduction community.

Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sensual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy” to convey a sensual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sensual thoughts in a girl’s mind.

Some of these techniques are better than others, and can surely improve the quality and success of your pickups. I prefer a very pure definition of sensual tension because it is grounded in real sensual desire, and a very natural way of amplifying the tension felt by the girl.

Sensual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sensual interest.

In the right time, I create sensual tension by focusing my sensual desire on my girl, but not making any visible advances. I maintain intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, and directs her mind toward sensual imagination. My state is transferred to my girl, and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques.

Sensual Arousal State

There are two reasons why a sensually arousal state is so important. First, girls love sex. A sensual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.

The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood?

Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of yourself.

How do you feel with someone who is very nervous?

You feel nervous too! Think of a time when you were with a girl, say a girlfriend, and she was very horny and sensually arousing, but you weren’t doing anything sensual. You'll probably get aroused because she was horny. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other.

How to have a controlled arousal state

It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is important - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sensually aroused. (State control is not only important in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”)

One of the best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (sober), get experience talking to girls.

Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help.

Can you see where this is going?

State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage.

Creating Tension


For the “getting turned on” part, increasing the level of testosterone will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, have a regular intimacy.

Now you know how to get aroused. So during your interactions with women, focus on what she’d look like naked, or imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain.

The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.

These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sensual tension, we enter a sensual state, but don’t verbalize our desire.

If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but at now she knows where she stands - she is validated.

That isn’t bad, but it’s not advisable. She has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”

Another important thing about verbalizing sensual interest is that it puts a woman in a point where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading of becoming intimate. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you.

So imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. So do you think it will be more interesting?

True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere.

But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.

You're well on your way once you have mastered that concept,