The Concept About Shaping

Let's talk about the concept called SHAPING.

There are a number of tools included in this concept that are used to set a STRONG precedent to a woman's behavior.

Before I proceed, let me ask you this:

Have you ever been with a girl that talked about how she LOVED when her boyfriend did something very specific?

Do you have a feeling of motivation to perhaps do the same thing?

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Have you ever been asked by a girl you are dating, if you were reliable, honest or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to IMPRESS HER?

Of course... we've all been there.

What important here is not the outcome on those situations, but only to be AWARE that you were EMOTIONALLY COMPELLED to behave in a certain way...

Whether the woman knew it or not (most likely, she DIDN'T) she was SHAPING you.

Now don't misunderstood me, this isn't necessarily a bad thing...

People do it to each other all the time.

But a lot of time, you are encouraging a woman to behave in a way that is NOT according to what you desire.

So STARTING RIGHT NOW that's what we are going to change.

There are a lot of ways on how you can start to employ shaping in your interactions with women.

And I've split them up into 5 different categories.

Now don't get me wrong.

This is a HUGE topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping alone.

For this moment I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to grasp the higher level ideas, and start to employ them into your interactions.

So here are the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

Screening questions are questions specifically designed to:

A) Get a woman to answer a specific way and
B) Start here to behave in a way that is more congruent with how she just answered you.

Screening questions has a different types, and most importantly you should use them in the right context.

Like for example, you wouldn't start a conversation with a woman with the question "Do you consider yourself to be independent?"... but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the least subtle but most OVERT out of all the shaping techniques.

They are easiest to use RIGHT away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to a woman.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, only that this time you are making a statement.

It's a little less obvious than screening questions, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining 3 techniques.

Instead of saying something like "What was the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?" (which is a screening question) You might say something like "Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life."

Because you are justifying your statement with a truism (it's hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she's committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way CONSISTENT with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

This technique, along with the next two, are VERY devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that women use them ALL THE TIME.

It's funny actually - my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to know that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also - had already used many of them NATURALLY!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my BEST techniques have been stolen DIRECTLY from the women I know who have the VERY BEST game.

The idea of this concept is that you will tell a story that DEMONSTRATES what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

For example, you could say to a woman, very early in the interaction something like:

"One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month's copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have TOO MANY new ideas for a new outfit."

The good thing here is, it doesn't even have to be true!

(I'm not going to make a moral decision for you here, I'm sure that you're more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to amplify existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea here - if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior - drinking like crazy, there are different components to it, some good, some bad.

Let's say you like the free-spirited aspect of it, but you don't like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control...

You could say:

"Wow, you're so much fun! and so-free spirited. It's cool you do things you really want to do, and don't rely for others for direction. You follow your OWN desires."

By pointing out behaviors, you are REWARDING them and AMPLIFYING that same behavior in the future.

By selecting what behaviors you like about her, and calling attention of it, you are SHAPING her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a same-night-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she'll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn't go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration, like for instance. giving a woman cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her 'good' behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as "good" behavior from a girl, it is to your benefit to REWARD her with something you want her to WORK for or CHASE AFTER.

This should be either affection, physicality or getting in bed, but NEVER a material or monetary. Breaking this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a woman as a gold digger, and that my friend, is what she will be.)

Be nice, and use these concept carefully.