Fashion For The Pickup Artist Pt. 2

(continued from part 1)

There was about a couple of times that I did the peacocking. I did that to see if it worked because I heard that other guys were doing it.

I felt ridiculous when I went out and was totally incongruent with my personality.

But we all know that women pay attention to fashion, and like a well-dressed man.

I noticed that it was in my workout clothes or something really basic - like jeans and a tanktop that some of my best pickups occurred.

At the same time, I'd see muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or super-tight shirts at the club, and women definitely did not respond well to this.

This got me thinking...maybe it's not how much the clothes cost, or how flashy they are...

Maybe there's something else going on.

Actually, there are two things going on, and you must manage and balance these two things.

First, avoid seeking approval from women. You are toast, if a woman can tell you that you are trying to impress her and make her like you.

Women will see you coming a mile a way and put up their defenses if you look like you got dressed with the intention of getting their attention.

You DON'T have to look like a pick up artist.

It's better to dress modestly, and not put too much thought into it.

However, you need to present yourself in the best way you can and not to look sloppy.

This comes back to self-expression.

You now have sense what kind of guy you are, what your "scene" is, what you think is cool.

Never change that.

Instead, develop it, with these simple tweaks.

Wear colors that appeal to your skin tone and hair color. This isn't rocket science. Go to an upscale men's clothing store, and ask someone about this. Or look online.

Next is to make sure that your clothes are clean, wrinkle free and reasonably updated. A woman will not worry about bringing you around her friends.

Lastly, make sure your clothes fit well, meaning, they ACCENTUATE YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.

Square your shoulders and wear shirts that narrow your waist.

Put on a pants that make your legs look long and thin.

Wear shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.

Groom yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a decent haircut. Shave, or don't, but figure out what looks best and take it all the way.

One other thing...

Accessories should adhere off you loosely, and have a look of a small decoration that says, "yeah, I can fuck."

Make out for your intuition with this one. I don't want to say too much because that's a whole other topic.

Fashion For The Pickup Artist Pt. 1

I am NOT a very fashionable type of guy.

Usually the one who pick out clothes for me is my girlfriend - not for MY benefits...

... so that she doesn't feel ashamed if we go together to the public!

If it were me to pick the clothes, I'd wear a sweats and T-shirt all day, together with an old worn sneakers. It means that I think a fashion as silly.

I can absolutely appreciate the aspect of design and style of fashion. When I looked at the able-bodied dressed woman, her outfits is like of art, and I dig that.

But when a man is "too stylish" I kinda lose respect for him.

Don't get it wrong, a guy should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A good quality, nice and well-fitting clothes are a fundamental to masculine expression.

But some men take it too far.

The case is, the obsession with "peacocking" in the pickup Community for the past several years.

Hearing that words makes me cringe.

YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.

If you don't know what "peacocking" is, let me explain it to you.

A while ago, there was an emergence of routine-based "game," relying heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.

I didn't see the value of any of this, and have always gone in the opposite direction.

Major reason is I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and it JUST FELT WRONG saying the routines and joke that the other guys came up with.

The PRIMARY FOCUS of all these strategy and game-playing was to visibly get approval from women, but making them feel insecure and they'd think you were cooler than them.

Think of this bullshit layers in the approach to dating. Not only are you faking your personality because you

a) seek approval (as if women has an authority on what makes man a man)

b) keep the fact that you're seeking approval

c) play games that will make women feel insecure so that they will try to seek your approval

YUCK

To dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would "notice" you and want to talk to you is a kind of "peacock,". And "peacock" is one of the main techniques in approaching women.

Now there's nothing wrong with wearing a nice watch, or a necklace that has some personal meaning.

I don't want women to like me because of that.

I'm pretty sure a lot of men has seen this approach on TV shows, straining to make sense out of this hare-brained "technique."

It's sad to say that some students of other pickup schools that I've encountered, were not only nervous, misdirected, clumsy, they looked RETARDED.

So I want to make a direct proof when it comes to fashion and approaching women.

There are few pieces of things you need to pay attention to when it comes to your physical looks.

After you have handled this stuff, you should place it out of your mind, and that you shouldn't wait for women to notice you before TAKING AN ACTION.

Before we move on, I have a secret that has to reveal.

(Continued in Part 2)

Part III of Story Telling Techniques

Today I will be sharing with you the part III of the story telling techniques. And this technique is about adding TOUCH to your stories.

This technique is very powerful and ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life. And this really helps paint the picture and get your audience more involved.

As an example for this would be like "My friend and I were walking over there like this... (lock arm in arm)."

When you are using like this arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm. And when you do the touching, only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story. If you are using something like the arm a

An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be "I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).

Continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction. That is the key for you not to look obvious

Another fun thing to sprinkle into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability. It can essentially be a tasteful ways to brag in your stories... without actually bragging.

These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.

Now you really don't need these much but in some cases it can add a special flare to your stories.

Actually I often mentioning other women in my stories. You can do this by changing the word "friend" to "girlfriend" or name dropping by saying "my friends Lisa and Sarah" anything along those lines.

They need to be subtle and never the focus of your story. They are just minor details.

To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don't provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it's not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.

Be sure to eliminate redundancies and all unnecessary content and make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don't affect the overall story.

For now...you should be aiming for about 2 mins stories.

How much you share all depends on the skills that you have develop in your storytelling. A masterful storyteller could capture the attention of the audience for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes of your audiences attention.

Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention and remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.

Looking back at the original example of...

"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."

Now you can see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story.

Here is the FINAL revised version of my story. Enjoy:

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)...Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.

Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place... kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)

So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa's friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this...(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty...thick breath....oh it was terrible.

(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway... my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans. (Illustrate structure with arms).

Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table... and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)

Little did he know... that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened... it was full... so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!

(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)

It looked like he wet his pants!

His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again... I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious!

(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)

Before I end this oh so long newsletter....I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips.

- Do not memorize your stories. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it...but don't become a scripted narrator.

- If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life.

- Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton's character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.

- The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.

- Avoid pauses like "ummmm and ugghhh" everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.

- Always be painting a picture, appeal to all the senses as much as possible.

-Lastly and most important to sum things up....

“Do not tell your stories AT your audience...tell your stories TO your audience.”

Make sure they are always getting involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for. Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to move the story along.

You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.

Dating Tips for Men: Keeping the Girl

When I really started to get good, and could escalate with any woman very quickly, I think about all the women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And it's quite sad.

So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.

But I had my head up my ass.

...maybe that's a little harsh.

But either way it comes down to TWO distinct problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering
nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And
that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I've accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But...

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is Myspace, shopping and getting drunk any cooler than what I'm into?

It's all relative.

What it really comes down to is self-acceptance.

A woman won't accept you if you don't accept yourself.

Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don't like yourself?

She will HATE your company and not want to be around you.

Because if you don't like yourself, you can't really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear
people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

In my experience, almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely.

And I'm no exception.

The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you
attractive, and people want to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and tell you
that you are not enough, that you must be more than you are.

But the degree to which you banish these thoughts is the degree to which your
game becomes better.

Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after sex, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not separate from your game.

Your game IS YOU. The "game" is thedegree to which you can express who you really are.

"But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward" you might be thinking. I disagree. That's not you.

That is the distorted you.

That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from
expressing what you really want to express.

Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I
couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.

I wasn't aware of shaping.

And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.

In fact, it's self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and
you encourage women to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to
a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they
are better than the man.

But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act
accordingly.

If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.

Likewise, after sex, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and
nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

We go into this heavily in our workshops. I've developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a sex partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

If you're struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through
The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.

How to Manage Your Time when Meeting Women - Part 1

Dating can be your best pal.

...OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave

to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote, "He thinks

with his... You know."

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are

physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and

affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I've personally

faced is balancing the two - my urges and

achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of

time. If you don't know what you're doing,

women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in

the park, feeding the birds and cuddling...

there's nothing wrong with spending a quality

time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU

DON'T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, and so do women.

In fact, it's their NATURE to take up a man's

time - it's her way of getting you to invest

in her. That way there's less chance of you

leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from

our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with

women. You see, giving their time to women is

what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are

"givers." They like to please women, protect

them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take

over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get of you making the

most of your life, your time.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this,

"WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I know it wasn't about "money," or

"control over my life," or "lots of my free

time."

It was probably something like "feeling of

safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,

excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel

good about herself, etc."

There are two ways that I think why men have

problems with how they use their time with

women.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff -

like spending too much time or money on a

woman because they think that the gifts they

REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.

Second, men think that they are "getting"

something valuable when a woman spends her

time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe

that women are a prize to attain, and that

there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's a LIE!

The best thing is to see women for what they

are, nothing more, nothing less. They are

cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that

important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it can be really hard to break out of this

mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to

notice because you've been doing them for

years.

Young men are taught that their urges is

crude and silly, and that it is just a favor

that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's a syndrome that I call a "doofus dad"

syndromeThere's another societal factor going

on, . In almost every TV commercial and

sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband"

is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the

mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her

superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of

the women is more valuable than men because of

the perception that women are "better."

You will feel obligated to give a woman a LOT

OF TIME if your time is not so valuable.

But here's the thing - if you are giving a

woman too much time, you won't be present for

most of that time. You will be distracted,

resentful, you will give her your "half-assed"

attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of

dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION

to women even though I'm only giving a smaller

amounts of my time.

Not only did this make our time better, it

created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left

women craving more.

Now my women can't get enough of me - in fact,

I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

You see, "enough" would mean, "overexposure"

to me, and women can't be pulled to what they

already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being

HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play

games with women and pretend to be busy or

whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl -

and don't spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women

but still with focus on your personal goals.

Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that

you are able to meet a lot of women, which

I'll have to cover in another newsletter.

It makes me sad to see men waste their lives

chasing and "putting up with" women, and then

they are buried in their coffin ALONE.

Women aren't property that you can keep or

somehow take with you when you die. Think

about that.

You can't "keep" a woman by investing all your

time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being

honest with the amount of time you are willing

give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you

will feel it on your own. That's ok, it just

means that you have a weak focus.

If you are following your true ways, it will

usually from the social norm.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the

values others try to impose onto you, you will

most likely experience some discomfort,

tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction

Code. It's all about self-control, finding

true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge

from within.

And no, we don't try to impose our values or

goals onto you. We think you'll be able to do

that for yourself, given the proper guidance.


Vin

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Pick Up Artist Secrets: Attracting a "10

If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a
"10", then you should read this letter.

But first off, let go waaay back...

It was in my high school, that there was a girl in my class
who was seems so perfect.

She was smart, cool, and so beautiful it was hard to look at
her (and yet I couldn't look away)...

She was one of the popular kids, but was friendly to
everyone.

We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were
flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).

I was really wanted to ask her to senior prom... but at the
last minute I chickened out.

A few years later I realized she had a crush on me all
senior year.

I have talked to lot of men and this seems a common
experience to them. they missed an opportunity to meet this
ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, or the girl
had broke their heart...

Ah, the hard to tame "10," a perfect girl that every guy
dream of but never seems to have it.

I have a lot to say about the concept of "10's," In deeper
sense they are another "breed" of women, but it is on the
way they think that makes them so.

Understanding the reality of the extremely beautiful women
and understanding your own fascination for a perfect women
will help you resolve this conundrum, and might even help
you in finding your "perfect girl."

First thing, the idea about "10" is just a myth. There's no
such thing as a perfect human being. You cannot tell that a
girl is more "valuable" just because she looks beautiful
than the other girl.

The woman that is perfect for you is the one who can turns
you on and have a great chemistry with you. That is the only
true "10".

Subsequently, there are a lot of 10's in the world, you just
need to have the ability to meet a bunch of women, and make
an options for yourself.

It will be a failure on your part if you treat women
differently just basing solely on looks or on whose much
prettier.

Why?

Because a lot of guys do that.

She knows what you're about and sees you as shallow.

But there definitely are certain women that seem on another
"level" of beauty than the rest. These women get treated
much differently than other women.

You need to understand on how you will deal with these kinds
of women.

Like I said, you shouldn't treat them "differently."

Let me clear this up.

You shouldn't treat them BETTER than other women. But there
are a couple things you need to know.

First, she is sick of guys chasing her for her looks alone.

She wants to be appreciated for her personality more than
anything else.

Now for the sake of yours, I''ll be giving you a heads up.

The so-called "10's" has two different types.

Low self-esteem and high self-esteem.

Low self esteem 10's are pretty common. They are used to
being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn't
EARN that attention, so they have a guilt complex.

In fact, most of their lives they've probably coasted, and
are complete dumbasses.

It may sounds not good but I call it like it is.

These type of women will respond to jerk-behavior. Taking
away their validation will make them flip out and do
anything to get it back.

Anything.

(As a side, these girls usually suck in bed and are total
head cases when you get involved with them.)

On the other hand, the high self-esteem 10's women have had
a taste of elite- they know early from the start that high
levels of society were attainable to them, and they work
hard to be successful, intelligent, and make the most of
their lives.

These women are motivated to put an extra effort because
they know that they are just a little closer to a great life
than everyone else.

Usually these women have good attitudes, are intelligent,
have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond
being clubbing.

Actually, most of beautiful women I've dated didn't even go
to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with
their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with
friends (or studying if they were in college).

Another interesting thing is that these women are single for
long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

The women here have a high standards for themselves, and
this makes most guys either too intimidated to approached
and ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them,
it's seldom they meet another man who is at the same level
with them.

But here's the good news. These women are the easiest to
attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

Being the best man you can be and being a "male 10" is what
you will get from these Attraction Code.

When you start to embody the Attraction Code you will surely
notice an interesting thing.

You'll get odd responses from less attractive women - they
will occasionally be rude to you because they know they're
not on your level - it's what I call the Auto-Rejection
Mechanism. Some women will try to protect themselves from
being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much
differently...you'll be amazed to see the most beautiful
women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether
on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you
are on their "level."

She thinks to herself, "finally, a guy who can hang with me;
he's confident and treats me like a real person. And he's
the only guy who's actually tried to talk to me today,
instead of whistling from his car."

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. And
of course you'll have plenty of "adventures" to enjoy with
all kinds of women, but this is about having the option of
dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are bunch of 10's out there waiting for you.

Don't waste you're time waiting for nothing.

Vin

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Supercharge Your Conversations Through Storytelling II

This is now the "Part II" of the storytelling newsletter.

In "Part I" we covered about the importance of storytelling and how it can improve your game dramatically. Now we are going to start using storytelling and from that we will understand why it is so powerful.

We are going to work on constructing your very own epics!

In "Part I" there were two things I've asked of you.

The first one is to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life that have changed and defined who you are, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.

We are going to start out working with these things.

First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, eliminate the ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were "you kind of had to be there" stories.

Reflect on that 5 stories and see if which ones have the most emotional connection to you. From that, consider which of the stories would most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.

Now that you're down with 5 solid ideas, we are going to just focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.

For now, your main target with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

Also feel free to ask your friends about which story subjects they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

And of course I'm sure there were still some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.

As I said in “Part I” I'd do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)
"The other day I was at club voodoo with my friends and I roam around making some new friends and having a good time. Well there's one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was really an annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint that we don't like his presence."

Pretty annoying story... I know, but we can turn this to something awesome.

First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.

The first component, is "The Hook Question"

The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved. It is use to captivate the group and it is the line you deliver to introduce your story.

When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start with the introduction of the story, because if there's one person not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away from your story.

Make eye contact or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.
There are two different types of hook questions.

An open ended hook question and a yes or no hook question.

Basing on my story here is the possible hook question:

An open ended hook question would be "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?"

A possible yes or no hook question would be "Have you ever been to club voodoo?"

Of the two hook I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, although a yes or no one is good also cause it gets you right into the story.

So let's add this to the story... (Find a hook question for your example stories as well)
For my story now, I'll be using an open ended hook questions so to start my story in the interaction I would say

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo...(rest of story)
Now that you have the hook question down, we are going to rewrite our stories to demonstrate aspects of identity because the next step is to demonstrate personality.

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

My 5 things were:

I am a very social person
I am a musician
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor
I am interested in video and photography

Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring your stories into life.
Another important aspect in expressing your personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality...

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it's over. It can be one line or much more... The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

You need to create a dramatic build up in order to have a successful delivery of your punch line in your story, such as by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy's part and I don't want to associate myself with friends like that. Also...a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining...after all...it's a "STORY"

Now here's the updated story with the new punch line:

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway...my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table...and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know...that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened...it was full...so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again...I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

Now if you have done these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.
HOWEVER....there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story someday.

These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.

The first and most important is creating check in points.
Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story making sure that you have the full attention of the audience. It gets them more involved.

Examples are "That ever happen to you?" "Don't you hate when that happens?" "You know what I mean?"

Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. "Kind of like that over there" "Reminds me of her (point to person)."

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won't need one near the end.

If ever you see someone walking away or the attention's not in you, throw one out to regain focus. An example in a passage of my story would be:

"Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing....kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar)."

You don't always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience.

Tips in Attracting Women

There are men that will not be great when it comes to women.

"What?!"

You might be thinking I'm crazy, but it's true.

A lot of men just can't be there.

And it's not because they're not smart enough or somehow defective...

The truth is, it's a subconscious choice that they have made unknowingly.

Now I'm here to help in making sure that you are or will not one of those guys.

What you will hear from me may probably not be hear from other gurus because it's such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Let me tell you about Matt. He is a good guy and likes to socialize.Actually he has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn't get the success he really wants; in fact he's not successful at all.

"Vin, why don't you help him!?"

There are a couple reasons why I don't help Matt out. One being he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that's not the real reason. If he was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with women.

I've already said Matt's a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our common friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don't like hanging out with him and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having a hidden motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens when he's talking to girls. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another level he has an underlying motive.

Having intentions with women isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual desire openly women will accept it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions and you come off as creepy and weird. Women won't trust you or feel secure being around you alone. You could be the best actor in the world but... THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. This will destroy any chance of success you might have.

Now you know what might be going wrong. Let's go fix it.

The first thing you need to do is to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. This isn't about giving back money. This could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a girl.

Be out there talking to women not just because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing and fun and interesting and wonderful.

Next is you need to start being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean directly telling a women "My purpose of talking to you is so that I can get into your pants." That's a sure way to kill your pickup as fast as being creepy.

There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you're congruent with what you're saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to use it that it will require? I didn't think so. I wouldn't want to spend the months writing that novel either.

Supercharge Your Conversations Through Storytelling

I will be talking with you a subject that can improve your conversation when meeting and holding the interest of not only women but anyone in your life.

This subject is none other than Storytelling. I will be sharing with you tips and secrets on how to construct a story and how to be a successful storyteller. But before that, I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth 1: Does my story have to be factual and about me?

The answer to this is up to decide whether it has to be true or fictional. The story does not have to be true. What matter in here is how you convey and apply the techniques in storytelling, how you keep the conversation fun and interesting. Once you hit the right way you will see that the conversation keep moving and leads to another topics.

Even if the women does not believe the story, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.

I'm not telling you lie because the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion. However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly constructed reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth 2: When you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.
Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with pre-scripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling and why is it important?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

It plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)

There are many reasons storytelling is important and try to consider these following facts:

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reason why I want everyone to master storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. And with this you directly express your personality. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. Whatever expression you show in your stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

One of the most common problems that I see with many guys is they were doing great in the first few minutes of interaction and then as he goes on the conversations starts to die and there is that awkward silence. So, this is now a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

If you know that you are armed with a story plus a good techniques in conveying it, be confident in entering an interaction.

There are people who are afraid in having an interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. But by developing a great story and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes and ears are on you making you as the center of attention, and everyone lingers on whats your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike of the usual interactions, a remarkable story is unforgettable. How many times have you heard someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."

*You can express through storytelling the things that you could normally say.
There may be some interesting details of your life that can be add-up in the context of your story. But of course, these little details are never be subject of the story thus they remain subtle but adding it can be a powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Make a list anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

If you have a funny story which you think can be humorous for the others then feel free to include that. Also you may consider adding story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

That moment can be happy, fun, or even sad but not depressing for we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually choose from it just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, moments of success, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is absolutely not the true; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. Don't be afraid to share it, Sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

Everyday of our life is a story but we may be unaware of it. Once it has been a past event and then being told, there you will realize that it was a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise 2: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

This speak about your personality. The thing that directly relates to your identity and make you who you are. I know there are lots of it... right? Just jot down those things which you would like to let others know about you. Oh, and don't be surprise these things are directly related in some of the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

Now save this list for we are going to use it in Part II of this newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

Just keep an eye out for our next newsletter and be ready to take storytelling to the next level.

How to Deal with Male Competition when Meeting Women

Have you avoided having a conversation to a woman just
because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you fear of getting embarrass if you approached a
group of girls with one or two guys with them because you
ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with
women who were with other guys.

They think that the woman is "with" the guy, and assume he's
her boyfriend.

Guys shouldn't think this as a barrier of talking to a
woman. Plus - she's not a guy's "slave" or a piece of
property, so she is free to talk to whomever she chooses,
especially in a social situation like in the bar where
people meet other people.

You will extremely look confident if you approach more often
a woman who is "with" a guy and this can draw out the guy's
jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.

The other reason guys don't approach women with other men
points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, they assumed that
the "other guy" is more cooler, stronger, or somehow
powerful than they are.

This is founded in an ancient survival strategy that has
been hardwired into the human brain.

In any given interaction, its often hard to tell who the
more "dominant" person is. So when a male is confronted by
another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.
The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious.

A guy doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as
was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's better to play safe by assuming that the other guy
is a threat. Guys that were too bold may have won a few
confrontations, but it will take a single loss to end up
dead or exiled from the game.

And then their genes were taken out of the "race" so to
speak.

So the guys who played it safe, and avoided confrontation
usually lived long enough to reproduce and survive.

The irony is that most of approach anxiety nowadays have the
basis on this hard-wired survival strategy - the false
assumptions of the guys will lead them to unnecessarily
avoid women.

Here is the thing, mostly when you see a girl talking to
another guy in the club or bar, she's not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

For many instances I've approached a girl with a guy
thinking it was her boyfriend, then only to find out that he
was just a random dude who just approached her. Or he was
just a friend or relative.

I think of all the times I completely avoided talking to a
woman because I saw her with another guy. I regret having
missed so many opportunities. Which brings me to my first
point:

DON'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL
EVIDENCE. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE WOMAN.

You will know it if you try to act and find out. Just
remember that in time that they are together you should be
alert an respectful, the guy may be the insecure jealous
type and may start a confrontation.

So use your head - just don't limit your options by making
false assumptions.

Another thing that I want to talk about is the idea that the
other guy can be more "dominant" than you are.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the
caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access
to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he
could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those powers are relevant today. Every
man with a source of income can survive on his own - if
you're reading this, you probably have access to food and
shelter. You're all set.

Plus, in this modern world it is irrelevant to use the
physical strength just to beat people up. It's illegal.

You'll always end up losing if you attack another person
because the police always win.

If you think about it, you are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU
FOR NO REASON!

Just excuse my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk
to???

It was annoying - remembering all the girls I missed out on
because I was scare about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing
that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

When you're on your deathbed, you are going to look back on
all the things you did and didn't do. How painful would it
be to say "I didn't meet that girl because I was scared of
another guy," or "there were so many beautiful women I
could've enjoyed, but I didn't even try because I saw them
TALKING to another guy."

I don't want that to be you.

So let's analyze it deeply. You truly don't understand
dominance if you are seeing the other guy as more dominant.

You see, if you're concerned with who is more dominant you
instantly make yourself NOT dominant. There's a better
focus.

You must first THINK like a dominant man in order to become
dominant. And dominant men doesn't care who is more
dominant. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it
is that they are doing or want.

So you see another guy talking to a group of girls. Instead
of worrying about whether or not he's more dominant than
you, focus on the girls.

I seldom even acknowledge other guys, because it's proven to
be just a waste of time. 9 out of 10 women don't even know
the guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do, maybe ONE of the girls know him, and barely
the rest know him.

It's rare for girls to go out with a guy they are dating -
usually they will bring a guy who is more of a
protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable
when they go out on the town.

And also, if that guy IS with one of the girls, that means
he's NOT with the other girls - they are fair game.

When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by
definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable
whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.

Avoid some assumption, just get your focus in a USEFUL
place, and don't allow some random dude to stop you from
enjoying YOUR LIFE!

Is It Fun or Feel like Work Meeting Women?

Does meeting with women seems like a WORK to you?

And do you ever feel despite all your hard work you're not even closer to your goal?

READ ON if you answered YES those questions.

In fact, dating game can be quite frustrating.

You see a girl you like, but she has a boyfriend.

Everything is going smooth and fine between you and a woman and then just suddenly she's not returning or answering your calls.

Not to mention the fact that as the man you pretty much have to do everything to move things forward.

YOU have to have the courage to approach.

At first, you have to keep the conversation moving, you have to escalate physically, you have to get her number and you have to have a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to set a date.

Not to mention there are much higher standards for men's behavior than women.

(Let's not started on that...let's just say women are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they are "beautiful.")

Being not "extroverted" by nature can be pretty exhausting.

...I just had a client who often complained of "extroversion fatigue."

I used to struggle with that too that's why I knew exactly what he meant.

Before I started to teach myself about pick-up, and then found myself being mentally DRAINED after talking to three or four women.

What I do is to have a sit and rest!

Come to think how strange the situation is, I am supposed to have fun and relax but instead I am working harder than I was at my full time job.

I would go home absolutely dead

... from SPEAKING TO WOMEN!

Does it make sense to you???

There you see the general dating fatigue. There's an ups and downs in the emotions, results that is discouraging, in the hard work that I make just to get women to hang out with me or be in bed with me.

It was like a full time job and I was working overtime!

When I first got in this game, I literally had to force myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I admit, I was a nerd, and pushed it to the extreme.)

All I can say is that I have this passion in learning those stuff (very eager for the outcome after years of sensual frustration)

I would push myself like professional athletes push themselves in the gym.

I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS and working on my muscles that I've never done before.

If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably working too hard in your interactions with women.

There are three reasons for this.

Socially proactive is the first reason that may be new to you.

I remember the first time I started weight lifting, I don't have an upper pectoral muscles - the muscle right at the top of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.

Actually I do have a small muscle but it was so weak that I can't even feel them. So every time worked them out I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms. And it took me three good weeks to really feel them.

And then I reached a tipping point of sorts, where the muscle was developed enough that I could handle big amounts of weight without all the soreness and fatigue. Your mind is the same way.

It takes time to develop these new neuro-pathways on your own. If you're not pushing yourself HARD day in-day out, it can take awhile, depending on your skill level.

Thinking that meeting women requires a lot of hard work can cause a social fatigue. And that is the second reason.

It's not really so much about "fatigue" but it's more on having an overwhelmed feeling.

When you feel overwhelmed by something, it can frazzle your mind, and lead to a sort of depression, or discouragement, which may feel like exhaustion if you're not deeply aware. It's like your body is saying "ugh, it's too much work. I give up before I can even begin."

This will hinder you from doing any progress. I was in this situation when I was putting a lot of theories on my notes. And as I looked at them I've seen that I am just like looking for a huge and complex physics equation.

Doing ALL of this stuff just to had a quality women in my life was so discouraging to think.

The last reason for feeling exhausted in the dating and mating game is that you are spending too much mental energy in the wrong places, wasting your focus on stuff that isn't useful to pickup.

99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn to hide their inner "stuff."

But of course we can't oppose to the reality that when a guy is attracted to a girl, he is trying his best just to win her or at least know if the women likes him too.

Think about the messages we get from the media, our parents and friends, and women - it's the man's role to IMPRESS the woman and EARN sex from her.

That's Silly!

I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a fool while she giggles like she's better than him because she's a girl.

Ok enough ranting... the point is that most guys are screwed when it comes to being in control of their dating lives.

But if a guy takes the time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to attraction, it changes everything.

You need to get the most out of your body and mind so that it can lead you to the highest level of your interaction with women and that's what's really attractive.

A MAN AT HIS BEST.

The Pick Up Artist and One Night Stands

Let me share with you the topic about One Night Stand

Before I don't really know how to do the one night stands, and I started to understand how easy it is to apply after I have used a couple of solid pickups.

"Bad belief overhaul" is what I can say when I look back on those things that I did.

I began to believe that women wanted me and wants to get in bed.

Even though I know that I am not that good looking like other men, I started to think that I was that too attractive and desirable to woman

Now about 75% of my students come to me with one main goal - they want to sleep with more women.

While the others have the aim to find their someone special but I don't think these aim are mutually exclusive.

Because if you are looking for a special girl, you have meet a lot of women so that you determine and pick the best choice.

It would be impossible to meet your someone special if you don't socialize and meet with a bunch of good women.

Getting started is a common phase that a good pickup artist needs to go through. In order to meet and sleep with LOT OF WOMEN, he should learn to think and behave in a new ways.

He's like a kid in a candy store, taking full advantage of his new powers!

This period of learning is necessary, or at least it was for me in order to snap out of my old way of thinking, and internalize my new reality - that I am attractive and woman want to sleep with me.

So it's important that you have a few really fast, casual sensual encounters, in order to get the ball rolling on forming new beliefs.

I'm telling about a same day lays or a one-night stand.

Having a one-night 'stands at-will' can seem just as out-of-reach as having a great girlfriend. So if you never had a one night stand, you might be considering about it.

But it's actually pretty easy, if you know what you are doing.

The crappy thing is, a lot of guys make it WAY too hard on themselves, and never get those initial sexual experiences that help them to really feel like a "natural."

If you're reading this, then you are interested in getting not only BETTER with woman, but you want to MASTER THE GAME.

Mastery comes from within - it starts with a mindset, and leads to external results, which then form NEW BELIEFS in your mind.

Your new beliefs will become the foundation in building and facing the new reality in your life, you will then naturally attract many women without even thinking and doing fancy lines and routines.

First of all, you can't always get the hottest woman in the venue to go home with you for a one-night stand.

You can get a solid number from her, but its not a guarantee that you can take her home because whether or not a woman is open to going home with a guy, it varies widely in particular night.

However, there are LOTS of horny women moving around the clubs and bar anytime of the day that are open in getting lay that same day or night. And all you have to do is have a knowledge and ability to spot them.

The things that I look in spotting them are in the way how they dressed, how much make-up they put on their face and other things that relates to how they look physically. Remember that there is a reason why women exert a lot of effort in order to look beautiful.

The general reason is that women wants an attention and be approach. Although this isn't always be the reason but a a lot of time it is the case.

You will also know that a woman is seeking attention when she is so loud, hyper and animated.

Lastly, another good prospect are woman that are looking around the room more than the other girls that she's with. Also a group of two or three women all standing around with blank expressions, scoping the room are another prospect.

These are what women do in order for someone to notice and approach them.

Now when you approach, take it easy - don't go in full-steam running your clever routines and your cocky frame control stuff.

A simple "hey, you guys look great tonight. Special occasion?" is enough. It's just have to be social, delicate and showing that you are interested in meeting them.

The key here is not to openly discuss getting in sensual or that you are looking to take her home. You see, if you talk about that, you'll put her on the spot and make her agree to bang with you, implicitly.

Rather you want to build sensual tension, as we discuss heavily in our workshops.

This will be against a woman's "rules" and she'll definitely be keeping distance from you. And you really need a logistic information to know how you can get her back to your place.

So before that thing happen, you have to remove some of your overt sensual intention and try not to let her know that you are trying to pick her up.

Just enjoy yourself while escalating appropriately and have a willingness to control the situation.

Although it may seem as counter intuitive, but this is how it works.

You have to believe that women wants to have sex and a lot of women in the place wants to have a fast getting laid down.

Some won't and some will, and that is why you need to know how to spot and get them.

I know you don't what to invest a lot of your time to pick the right girl and then just mess it up after a long interaction. Or to spend your time to a wrong girl or worse.

That's a HUGE waste of time.

The Concept About Shaping

Let's talk about the concept called SHAPING.

There are a number of tools included in this concept that are used to set a STRONG precedent to a woman's behavior.

Before I proceed, let me ask you this:

Have you ever been with a girl that talked about how she LOVED when her boyfriend did something very specific?

Do you have a feeling of motivation to perhaps do the same thing?

-or-

Have you ever been asked by a girl you are dating, if you were reliable, honest or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to IMPRESS HER?

Of course... we've all been there.

What important here is not the outcome on those situations, but only to be AWARE that you were EMOTIONALLY COMPELLED to behave in a certain way...

Whether the woman knew it or not (most likely, she DIDN'T) she was SHAPING you.

Now don't misunderstood me, this isn't necessarily a bad thing...

People do it to each other all the time.

But a lot of time, you are encouraging a woman to behave in a way that is NOT according to what you desire.

So STARTING RIGHT NOW that's what we are going to change.

There are a lot of ways on how you can start to employ shaping in your interactions with women.

And I've split them up into 5 different categories.

Now don't get me wrong.

This is a HUGE topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping alone.

For this moment I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to grasp the higher level ideas, and start to employ them into your interactions.

So here are the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

Screening questions are questions specifically designed to:

A) Get a woman to answer a specific way and
B) Start here to behave in a way that is more congruent with how she just answered you.

Screening questions has a different types, and most importantly you should use them in the right context.

Like for example, you wouldn't start a conversation with a woman with the question "Do you consider yourself to be independent?"... but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the least subtle but most OVERT out of all the shaping techniques.

They are easiest to use RIGHT away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to a woman.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, only that this time you are making a statement.

It's a little less obvious than screening questions, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining 3 techniques.

Instead of saying something like "What was the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?" (which is a screening question) You might say something like "Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life."

Because you are justifying your statement with a truism (it's hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she's committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way CONSISTENT with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

This technique, along with the next two, are VERY devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that women use them ALL THE TIME.

It's funny actually - my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to know that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also - had already used many of them NATURALLY!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my BEST techniques have been stolen DIRECTLY from the women I know who have the VERY BEST game.

The idea of this concept is that you will tell a story that DEMONSTRATES what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

For example, you could say to a woman, very early in the interaction something like:

"One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month's copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have TOO MANY new ideas for a new outfit."

The good thing here is, it doesn't even have to be true!

(I'm not going to make a moral decision for you here, I'm sure that you're more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to amplify existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea here - if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior - drinking like crazy, there are different components to it, some good, some bad.

Let's say you like the free-spirited aspect of it, but you don't like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control...

You could say:

"Wow, you're so much fun! and so-free spirited. It's cool you do things you really want to do, and don't rely for others for direction. You follow your OWN desires."

By pointing out behaviors, you are REWARDING them and AMPLIFYING that same behavior in the future.

By selecting what behaviors you like about her, and calling attention of it, you are SHAPING her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a same-night-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she'll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn't go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration, like for instance. giving a woman cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her 'good' behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as "good" behavior from a girl, it is to your benefit to REWARD her with something you want her to WORK for or CHASE AFTER.

This should be either affection, physicality or getting in bed, but NEVER a material or monetary. Breaking this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a woman as a gold digger, and that my friend, is what she will be.)

Be nice, and use these concept carefully.

The Attraction Code

http://www.vindicarlo.com The Attraction code video. Vin DiCarlo talks about how he developed his book, The Attraction Code. For more information about the contents of the book and to sign up for a free 45 minute masterclass introduction to the attraction code visit www.AttractionCodeBook.com.

The Paramount of Sensual Tension

In any interaction with a girl, sensual tension is very important

Sensual Tension brings energy, or charge to an interaction. Its application is subtle, but powerful.

There are many different concepts of sensual tension floating around in the seduction community.

Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sensual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy” to convey a sensual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sensual thoughts in a girl’s mind.

Some of these techniques are better than others, and can surely improve the quality and success of your pickups. I prefer a very pure definition of sensual tension because it is grounded in real sensual desire, and a very natural way of amplifying the tension felt by the girl.

Sensual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sensual interest.

In the right time, I create sensual tension by focusing my sensual desire on my girl, but not making any visible advances. I maintain intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, and directs her mind toward sensual imagination. My state is transferred to my girl, and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques.

Sensual Arousal State

There are two reasons why a sensually arousal state is so important. First, girls love sex. A sensual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.

The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood?

Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of yourself.

How do you feel with someone who is very nervous?

You feel nervous too! Think of a time when you were with a girl, say a girlfriend, and she was very horny and sensually arousing, but you weren’t doing anything sensual. You'll probably get aroused because she was horny. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other.

How to have a controlled arousal state

It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is important - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sensually aroused. (State control is not only important in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”)

One of the best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (sober), get experience talking to girls.

Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help.

Can you see where this is going?

State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage.

Creating Tension

For the “getting turned on” part, increasing the level of testosterone will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, have a regular intimacy.

Now you know how to get aroused. So during your interactions with women, focus on what she’d look like naked, or imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain.

The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.

These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sensual tension, we enter a sensual state, but don’t verbalize our desire.

If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but at now she knows where she stands - she is validated.

That isn’t bad, but it’s not advisable. She has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”

Another important thing about verbalizing sensual interest is that it puts a woman in a point where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading of becoming intimate. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you.

So imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. So do you think it will be more interesting?

True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere.

But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.

You're well on your way once you have mastered that concept,