Supercharge Your Conversations Through Storytelling

I will be talking with you a subject that can improve your conversation when meeting and holding the interest of not only women but anyone in your life.

This subject is none other than Storytelling. I will be sharing with you tips and secrets on how to construct a story and how to be a successful storyteller. But before that, I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth 1: Does my story have to be factual and about me?

The answer to this is up to decide whether it has to be true or fictional. The story does not have to be true. What matter in here is how you convey and apply the techniques in storytelling, how you keep the conversation fun and interesting. Once you hit the right way you will see that the conversation keep moving and leads to another topics.

Even if the women does not believe the story, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.

I'm not telling you lie because the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion. However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly constructed reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth 2: When you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.
Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with pre-scripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling and why is it important?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

It plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)

There are many reasons storytelling is important and try to consider these following facts:

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reason why I want everyone to master storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. And with this you directly express your personality. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. Whatever expression you show in your stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

One of the most common problems that I see with many guys is they were doing great in the first few minutes of interaction and then as he goes on the conversations starts to die and there is that awkward silence. So, this is now a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

If you know that you are armed with a story plus a good techniques in conveying it, be confident in entering an interaction.

There are people who are afraid in having an interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. But by developing a great story and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes and ears are on you making you as the center of attention, and everyone lingers on whats your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike of the usual interactions, a remarkable story is unforgettable. How many times have you heard someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."

*You can express through storytelling the things that you could normally say.
There may be some interesting details of your life that can be add-up in the context of your story. But of course, these little details are never be subject of the story thus they remain subtle but adding it can be a powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Make a list anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

If you have a funny story which you think can be humorous for the others then feel free to include that. Also you may consider adding story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

That moment can be happy, fun, or even sad but not depressing for we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually choose from it just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, moments of success, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is absolutely not the true; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. Don't be afraid to share it, Sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

Everyday of our life is a story but we may be unaware of it. Once it has been a past event and then being told, there you will realize that it was a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise 2: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

This speak about your personality. The thing that directly relates to your identity and make you who you are. I know there are lots of it... right? Just jot down those things which you would like to let others know about you. Oh, and don't be surprise these things are directly related in some of the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

Now save this list for we are going to use it in Part II of this newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

Just keep an eye out for our next newsletter and be ready to take storytelling to the next level.