Letting a Girl Know that You are for Real

How do you let a woman know that the vibe you're putting off in the beginning is the real you?

How does a woman know that after you slept with her all of what you said will be backed up?

These questions have the same answer... "CREDIBILITY".

Able to create credibility is one of the main components in sleeping with a girl quickly.

Most guys think they don't have enough value, 90% of their time, they lack credibility. In fact, these days most of everything used in creating value only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe. (and just to let anyone KNOWS I don't even teach value. Not for a damn second!)

"Player vibe" is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

Creating a sexual tension is another component.

And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

So let's get down to it:

There are three levels of credibility.

1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction

Safety: The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before you can make woman sleep with you.

Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.

Direction: You need to show direction in order that the woman you desire will leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.

You can think of the three levels in this way:

Safety - It's safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You have a common things in her world. You have the same perceptions, values, and goals.
Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and modify the realm of a woman.

These are best demonstrated in order and you can get really good at this.

At first, you might usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.

It's because men naturally understands a certain type of world view.

But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's world view.

The best way of doing this is by anticipating the thoughts and verbalizing a woman's feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

At first you will just be remembering things she's said in the past, and then repeating it after she had forgotten what she said.

Then you will get good at pacing woman's reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand woman's reality. Then a woman will trust you and allow you to change something for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING

You have to realize that every person you meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you have social programming. We all do.

It's not really a bad thing. In fact, it's very useful.

Although we understand a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect a woman to realize that.

Men have an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible while women have an instinct to choose men who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to raise children.

These instinct is reinforced by social programming.

Woman's programming is her reality and literally her world.

And credibility is about showing you understand her world.

HERE'S AN EXAMPLE ->

Think about if you were comfortably warm sitting in a chair in your bedroom. .

Then a guy came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.

You would feel very annoyed with him. You might even think he's crazy.

He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. He's "in his own world".

Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand your world, and doesn't respect your world - you probably wouldn't connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

And wouldn't trust a guy like that.

This is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.

If she thinks that it's a bad thing for people to kiss and tell (most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it's bad for people to kiss and tell.

If you have the same perceptions about the world as her, it will build your credibility immensely.

That's when you know you get this thing.

When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

She thinks "He's just like me!"

This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up.

It's a major piece and you'll watch your game improve dramatically once you get this.